Now let’s be honest here – we’ve all had a few toxic behaviors that have hindered us from becoming our best selves.
Here are a few of my own that you may also relate to, but please take this list with a grain of salt – we are ALL works in progress!
Believing that it’s too late:
Your time for success has not passed. Your life truly begins as soon as you decide you absolutely will NOT give up on yourself this time.
Buying things to impress other people:
Buying a home is a huge accomplishment, but that doesn’t necessarily mean YOU should. Same with cars, clothes, etc. Do things only because they fill YOU up. Trust me, the people you’re trying to impress could care less.
Forgetting to be in the moment:
Be present. Put the phone away. Make eye contact (but not the creepy kind), and actively listen. Make sure you are giving your full attention to others.
Trying to make someone love you (romantic or platonic):
We think that time is ticking for marriage in our 20’s or 30’s, so we hold onto people we know are low-key trash!
The people who are supposed to be in your life will make an effort to be there and pour into you. Invest your time in those people and watch how beautifully your life changes.
Getting too comfortable:
Ughhhh, I’m guilty as charged of this. It just felt easier to remain in my comfort zone, but instead I was making my life much more difficult.
The worst thing about this is that you stop learning. You stop growing. You stop dreaming. Try new things REGULARLY. Start small, as to not overwhelm yourself.
Thinking “This is just who I am”:
Just because you are past 30 does not mean you have completed the “Personality Checklist”. You are not a rock, my friend. You can always change your outlook or viewpoint on new things and ideas.
Trying to avoid failure:
I’d rather fail at something now, than get older and realize that I should have tried that thing that nagged me for decades. You were given those thoughts and ideas for a reason. Failure will build your strength and resilience more than comfort any day.
Being afraid of money(or lack of it):
In my 20s (ahem, and 30’s), there were several times that I was afraid to look at my bank account to see how LOW my balance actually was. As long as I remained fearful of it, I would never attract more of it or improve my relationship with it.
A book that helped me reframe my mindset around money is The Psychology of Money by Morgan Housel. Check it out!
Do any of these behaviors hold you back from leveling up? If so, what did you do to eliminate those limiting beliefs?
